Ever since I was a little girl, I have always known that if I were to ever get married, I would not be changing my last name. Not to offend anyone who has done this since many women do, but I have always thought the practice to be a little old-fashioned and offensive to women. It's like by getting married, you are losing a part of your identity. Also, it annoys me when married women get mail addressed to them as "Mrs. Husband's First Name Husband's Last Name." It's like not only do you lose your last name, but now you have to lose your first name too.
TLS grew up all over the South and Midwest and is very traditional. He definitely wants me to take on his last name and this has been a point of discussion for us. My thoughts on this topic are:
*I like that my initials are a palindrome. Palindromes make me happy.
*If I were to change my name, my initials would be MRS. Mrs. MRS is a little too much for me.
*I am an only child and there are no boys in my family. I have a very unusual last name and don't want to essentially kill it.
Yet, with my unusual name comes a lot of baggage. Those of you who have sent me mail know that my last name can be difficult to pronounce and is 13 letters long! While this was great in identifying telemarketers before the days of Caller ID and Do Not Call, it gets really annoying when not a single person I meet can pronounce my name right away and always has to spend about 5 minutes mispronouncing my name and then makes some lame jokes about it. My name is German in origin and the thought of spending four years in a country where everyone can pronounce my name without trouble sounds so appealing. It's another reason for why I was sure I wanted to keep my name. Of my last three friends who got married, only one chose not to keep her name. Yet as I sit here filling out my parts of our marriage application and all the paperwork that goes along with it, I start to wonder if it would just be easier to start over with a 5 letter name and I don't know what I want to do any more.
For those of you out there reading this that are married, did you keep your last name or take on your husband's and what were your reasons for doing so?