Monday, July 20, 2009

wedding rant, need to vent

I mailed out invitations to JMK's bridal shower a month ago, to 30 women. Since then, I have gotten RSVP's from only 5. The shower is on August 9th and I need to order food and favors. I can't do this until I know how many people I'm ordering for. The last shower I hosted, I ended up spending over $100 extra that I didn't need to spend on favors that couldn't be returned because a lot of people didn't RSVP. I really cannot do that again. I have asked the bride to reach out to her guests, and she posted a status on facebook telling her friends to RSVP to me. So far, no one else has. I am really upset right now because I'm doing this as a nice thing for her and her friends can't even be bothered to RSVP. I thought this was common courtesy? What is wrong with people?

15 comments:

  1. I don't know what's wrong with people nowadays that they can't even give someone the common courtesy of an RSVP to a party! It's sad, and it's happened to me as well!

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  2. That's really annoying. I always rsvp even if I don't need to (my best friend's wedding when I was a bridesmaid, she really likes getting mail).

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  3. I'd ask the bride for the phone number of all invited guests... and call them individually. I've had to do this before. Good luck.

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  4. UGH! That is SO frustrating!

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  5. Neglecting to RSVP may be one of the most frustrating things ever.

    Good luck, I hope they come flooding in soon!!!

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  6. I agree with Jackie. I've had to chase down RSVPs before. Feel free to get passive-aggressive tho.

    "Oh,yes, this is MRM in regards to the Bridal Shower. Since I STILL have not received your RSVP I assumed you were NOT coming however I wanted to double check as MANY guests have failed to RSVP and I hope that the shower will not be poorly attended."

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  7. I feel your pain :( I too agree with Jackie. It's a pain in the rear to call them, and you should not have to, but since they apparently have no manners it may end up making your life easier?

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  8. I think people are just rude!! They never appreciate the organizer, im sorry love, xxxoo

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  9. ugh, how tacky! I don't understand why they can't take 5 minutes or less and get it over with!

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  10. I feel your pain! I will never forget to RSVP again after getting married myself. It's such a pain to have to keep asking people if they're coming. Sorry you're dealing with that :-/

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  11. Did you give them a cut off date for the RSVP? I know this is just one more thing to do, but get their numbers and emails and shoot them an email and give them a call. If all else fails...food will be minimal and favors..I wouldn't do them. I think respect and manners have fallen by the wayside for so many people. So sad. Hope you are feeling better about it and have maybe gotten a few responses. Just kill them with kindness!

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  12. So - Update us - did you give them all a call? :)

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  13. I'm just reading this now (been out of town)... but I TOTALLY feel your pain. People just do not RSVP these days, and when you call them on it they act like it's no big deal. I always try to be prompt, since I know what a pain it is when you have a list that's mostly TBD!

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