So I know I owe y'all a weekend recap, but this ain't it. Thank you to everyone to commented on my post today and emailed me words of encouragement. Unfortunately, I got the short end of the stick in a professional situation, and now it looks like I will pretty much not be seeing the light of day until my trip to Chicago. I calculated that I won't even get the chance to get a mani/pedi/eyebrow wax before I go, and thankfully it's KMH to the rescue, who promised me that we could go for mani/pedis on Friday.
I stayed at work until 7:30 and then decided to bring my work home with me to my mother's house so I could watch Gossip Girl and do some work on her computer. I got an im from AJB, my old college roommate. She got married last summer in July and unfortunately there was quite a bit of drama between me and her surrounding her wedding and the bridal party. Her and her husband lived together for two years before getting married, and they had a few issues, but that's normal for any couple. At the wedding, all of our friends were saying that they thought that her and Steve were the perfect couple and how they were soulmates, would last forever, blah blah. I had this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach (call it woman's intuition) that the two of them just wouldn't last and would probably not make it past a year, but what are you supposed to do at a wedding? Tell the bride and all her friends that you think she's making a mistake? I think not. I smiled, took a lot of pictures, and drank my cosmo in silence. After the wedding, we didn't talk for a while. She would im and text me from time to time, and every time I asked about Steve, she would quickly change the subject. Once again, I had an off feeling, but couldn't say anything. Today, I'm sitting here trying to do a financial report, and I get an im from her, we start talking and all of a sudden she says "so I left Steve in December." I was stunned and did not know what to say. He was abusing her both physically and emotionally. They tried counselling, but that only made the abuse worse. I asked her what took her so long to tell me- I could have come and stayed with her so she felt safe or let her move in with me, and she told me that only like 5 people know because she is embarrassed. She's 25 and already has a failed marriage under her belt. I feel so bad for her and hate this asshole with every fiber of my being. (Those of you who read this blog regularly know how much that is, because I despise profanity.) In addition to physically hurting one of my best friends and stealing time from her that she will never get back, he made her doubt herself, which is even worse. She grew up from a blue collar family and got several scholarships and worked all through college to support herself. After graduating with honors, she got an MSW in one year, again completely on her own without anyone's support. She has worked in women's shelters and has made such a difference for so many people's lives, she really is one of the most incredible and inspiring people I know. Yet, despite all of her accomplishments, all that she is able to see right now is her failure. I wish there was a way that I could make her see that leaving a guy who is hurting you is a huge success, not a failure. It's the same thing she tells women in her shelter every day, I wish there was a way for her to see that for herself. I'm so upset right now and wish there was something I could do.